The short version of this post? My husband and I are near enough the same height. I didn’t want to tower over him. I wore flats.
BUT there *is* more to it than that and I think more brides-to-be should allow themselves to consider flats.
It’s a simple argument really: they are comfier, they are easier to walk in, you’ll last all day and night in them and I’d also place a bet that you’re more likely to wear wedding flats again. And let’s face it, nobody really dyes their wedding shoes to ‘wear again and again’. Do they?!?
In normal non-wedding life we’re often forced to wear heels because dresses are crazy long (I’m just shy of 5ft8 and I can’t believe how long standard issue maxi dresses can be on the high street sometimes) but this isn’t an issue when it comes to your wedding day as your dress will be made for YOU. As long as you commit to wearing flats ahead of the first fitting, your dress will be brought up sufficiently to make it work without the height of heels. Side note: It is SO vitally important that you’ve purchased your shoes before your first fitting and that you bring them along with you to all appointments (whether in flats or heels!) as getting the dress the perfect length to match your footwear will be the key way to avoid tripping on too much fabric.
I was worried about my dress (did ya see the size of it?!?) and I couldn’t have chosen that style if I was even considering the prospect of heels. If you’re worried about tripping on your dress (there can be a lot of fabric, after all) then just think about how much more relaxed you’ll be in flats. Most wedding dresses aren’t comfortable, so if your feet are in pain too it’s a whole lot of extra bother for no reason. And you will be on your feet A LOT.
I did feel during my wedmin research (aka reading mags and eating biscuits) that a lot of emphasis is placed on wedding shoes, but with most styles of long gowns the shoes are barely seen anyway, so I never really understood why people fret so much about them.Obvs I’m speaking from the ‘privileged’ position of not needing the height of heels, but if you can get away with flats then I really think you should as I can’t imagine anyone who has ever worn flats has regretted it, yet there will have been plenty of brides who took her heels off at 8pm and vowed never to wear anything other than Air Max ever again.
While heels were never an option for me due to my choice of loved one (ahem), I was adamant that wearing flats wouldn’t be the lazy un-glam frumpster alternative. I wasn’t going to have boring Primark pumps if I could have fancy flats like K-Midd.
Luckily, I have two French Sole boutiques in walking distance of my home (yeyyyyy!) so I did have plenty to inspire me in terms of posh flats and they VERY kindly gifted me one of their pairs for the big day and another even better pair for the morning after. Hashtag spoilt.
For the big day itself I wore this glittery love heart pair. They were super comfy AND I’ve already worn them to a wedding since my own so I’m pleased to report that I’m actually wearing them ‘in real life’. The weather’s a bit too damp and rubbish for me to risk the pretty pink suede outside too much at the mo but they look frikkin’ ace with jeans and as soon as the weather’s better I will be wearing them all.the.time.
Then for the big breakfast the next day with all our guests I wore quite possibly the best shoes I have ever seen…personalised smoking slippers!
Zomfg I LOVE THEM SO MUCH.
I can’t tell you how much I love these smoking slippers. Smoking is the correct word here.
The personalisation service isn’t available online and whilst you could probably organise over the phone, I’d recommend going to a store in person as you can see all the different font options and ensure you get the perfect fit. I wear a different size in the smoking slipper to the standard ballet flat, for example, and you definitely want to get the right size when dealing with personalised items which are obvs non-returnable. They have the service at the Kings Road and Brook Street boutiques and they’re £225. (As well as the navy you can get red or black velvet and the embroidery can match or be gold like mine).
The love heart pumps that I wore for W-Day itself aren’t stocked in pink any more, but they do still sell a white satin version for £160 which are more wedding-y. The pink ones I wore will be back in stock for Valentine’s next year, so you can still get them if your wedding is a while away!
That’s not all that’s coming in to stock for next Valentine’s though (I hate writing about Valentine’s now but I know some of you are getting married next summer so this may be useful info!) AS THESE amazing flats will be joining the range…
I love French Sole and I love that I didn’t have to think about my shoes at all on the day. I know lots of people wouldn’t consider flats for such an important occasion, but I think you should. Even if just for a minute. Because the dress will probably annoy you, so you can at least be nice to your (most likely hidden) feet.
Hey, I’ve seen them wear white Air Max on Don’t Tell The Bride!
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